I was enjoying walking by the ocean, golden sands, gentle lapping waves, emerald-azure waters, I could be feeling absolutely amazing or I could be lost within my dark thoughts. Then I was contemplating what does the internal landscape really look like & how do we take care of ourselves. Maintaining a feel-good factor is quite an art, even an ongoing okayness can be tricky. Our runaway thoughts are compelling & addictive as they fuel the epic 3D stories & tales – current & past.
Before we can say Jack Robinson (and who the hell was he anyway?) we have entered the dragon’s lair, fears, anxieties, self-recriminations, resentments emerge from the dragon’s fire & we spiral down. So many of our feelings especially anxieties, reside in the gut /sacral centre, yet somewhere within us we have the capacity to ease this fire & nurture ourselves, when we start to feel bad.
4 easy steps to self-nurture
With over 15 years working therapeutically with clients with a mixed bag of tricks from counselling, psychology, NLP, EFT & education, there are surely some useful tips for stopping us going down the plug-hole with the baby. In my experience anxiety & depression are the 2 most common presenting issues that clients bring causing bucket loads of low self-esteem.
The heart centre has a depth & knowing that we are only just getting a glimpse of.
Working with heart centre, accessing the self-love
OK – here we go, try this – I would love some feedback, does it work for you?
STEP ONE – Reality Checking
Have your feelings but don’t become an emotional-state. Check out your thoughts, are they fuelling a mistaken belief? Do some honest reality checking – what are facts and fiction, find numerous other possible rationales/causes (don’t have to be possible or plausible – be creative).
STEP TWO – Increase self-respect
Now give yourself a break from analysing & self-appraising, put problems & issues on the shelf for now, you can return to them later. Now do some important self-honouring time. Ask yourself -what blessings do you have in your life, what special gifts & talents do you hold, what do you value in life the most. Bless yourself, respect who you are (warts as well), forgive the oddities, you’re doing a grand job, having a human life!
STEP THREE – Fill up on heartlove
Breathe, meditate on visualising your internal champagne glass bubbling up & filling with heartlove juice, remember good things in your life that you love & hold dear to your heart. Decide to do something special for yourself today (massage, body wrap, swim in ocean, walk with the trees & birds) or even treat yourself to some expensive chocolate! Works for many of my girl friends! See the heartlove juice bubble over the champagne glass & flow through your veins, permeating through your whole being lighting up the body with heartlove.
STEP FOUR – Do something special for someone else
Random acts of kindness are powerful change actions & can be so nurturing for yourself too. As you do something special for someone else, you can light up their world & simultaneously make the world a better place. Do something different today, just something easy peazy. Altruism can be the best healer of all. It certainly takes us out of our tiny minds/lives & into a bigger more meaningful reality. Send that heartlove to at least 5 people.
Finally, use your mind to create a positive vision for yourself, your family, your community & the world.
Pamela Harland – Wellbeing Counsellor, Spiritual Mentor, Quantum Healing
This article was originally published on January 2012 on Spirit of Wellbeing.